Monday, June 18, 2012
Feast of Saint Elizabeth of Schoenau
Good Morning. Marriage is never 50-50. Marriage is about whatever it takes at any given time or place to make it work and it is usually about one or the other of us letting go. Unfortunately all too often couples engage in keeping score : “I’ll do for you, if you do for me,” or “Why should I be the one, it's always me?” Or, even worse “I’ll show him!” Often we look for ways to get revenge and hurt our partners the way that we were hurt. We want our spouse to feel the same feelings that we feel. We often run across news stories of couples where one has engaged in extreme behavior in settling the score. These stories often surround a spouse getting revenge for the other one being involved in an affair, and we often sit back thinking “They got what was coming to them.” But what about revenge? According to Jesus in today’s Gospel we are to turn the other cheek. And each of us are called to this very radical and challenging idea. This idea of turning the other cheek in marriage rests upon intent and commitment. When we act based upon the good it provides for the relationship then everyone wins. Likewise, when our sense of commitment eliminates all options but that which is best for the marriage everyone wins. It helps to look to the lives of the saints, such as Saint Elizabeth whose life we commemorate today, as a way to maintain the correct perspective and commitment in our lives. When all of our energy and intent is based upon what is best for the marriage everyone wins. It’s a win-win situation. Make a great day!
Today we recall the good life, gifts, and work of Saint Elizabeth of Schoenau.
Posted by Donald Gatwood at 6:19 AM