Holy Family

Holy Family

Monday, July 18, 2011

Feast of Saint Frederick

Good morning. Sometimes we need to take a chill pill. We all need assurance from time to time, but there are times when the need for assurance can become problematic. In today’s Gospel Jesus essentially says ‘enough!’ and indicates that no matter how much assurance He offers it will never be enough. Jesus indicates that those with little faith will always need a sign, but where there is faith there is no need for a sign. In marriage sometimes one of the partner’s own uncertainties leads to feeling uncertain about their relationship, and leads to doubts where there’s no need to doubt. And sometimes there are reasons to have doubts. One way to head this problem off at the path is to be certain to make efforts at offering reassurance through taking time to listen and talk with one another and to validate one another’s thoughts and feelings. Three keys to insuring a lasting marriage and alleviating any doubt in the relationship are: 1. Keep your partner number one. Keep the focus on the relationship. Too often we allow ourselves to become distracted by kids or our jobs or other interests. Assure your partner they are number one. 2. Take an interest in each other. Make a point of knowing what it is that brings your partner joy. Be enthusiastic. Be glad to see them. 3. Validate your partner’s feelings and thoughts. Avoid harsh start-ups. "Why do you..." or Why do you never..." Validating your partner's feelings can be as simple as listening and repeating back what you hear your partner say. Offer some assurance today towards insuring a lasting marriage. Make a great day!

Today we recall the good life, gifts, and works of Saint Frederick, Bishop of Utrecht and Martyr.

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