Good morning. This morning’s Gospel is a reminder that each one of us is a sinner. “Let the one among you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.” (Jn 8:7) Through the years one of the things I have discovered can be particularly problematic is the tendency amongst couples to cast blame onto the other partner for anything that goes wrong in their marriage. In fact, in general, blaming other people or situations seems to be a rather common way for most of us for responding to conflict situations. When things go wrong it's always ‘the other one’s fault'! Truth be known, most marriage problems rarely occur as a result of the actions of just one person, and blaming takes the focus off of the problem and puts it on the other spouse. Instead of worrying about who did what the focus needs to be on what can or needs to be done to correct the situation. It may be accurate that the other spouse is to blame, but does focusing it on ‘who done it’ truly resolve the problem or provide a solution? Focusing the problem on who did what only serves to put us on a non-ending course of conflict. Just as in the Gospel passage for today, it is always easiest to point the finger in the other direction, but next time you go pointing a finger at your spouse note that there are three other fingers pointing back at you. How often do we ask ourselves if there was something we could have done to avoid the situation? What can we do for our marriage today? Make a great day.
Today we recall the good life, gifts, and works of Saint Stanislaus of Krakow.
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